The contemporary mechanisms in any field of work demands us to be constantly at our ‘A’ game regardless of the career we pursue.
We are dragged into a mechanical existence which denies us the time to appreciate the beauty in mundane things.
We hardly take out any time to acknowledge our surroundings or contemplate our past choices until we are faced with the realization of an approaching death.
Bronnie Ware, A palliative nurse who’s surrounded by death, finally decided to keep a record of the top regrets of her patients who were facing sure death.
“My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.”“For many years I worked in palliative care…”
When questioned about any regrets people make, or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five.
1. “I Wish I had the Courage to Live a Life True to Myself and Not for Others”
When you are living the last days of your life it is common to reflect on past actions that were left undone more than the ones that were acted upon.
“Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made or not made,” stated Ware.
Giving up on personal goals for the sake of others usually leads you to immense regret.
2. “I Wish I hadn’t Worked so Hard”
This regret is common to most people who regret not spending enough time with their families due to extensive work schedules.
This was the case with almost every male patient Ware talked to.
Getting caught up in the rat race and over-working ourselves to achieve name, fame, success, and money at the cost of avoiding family trips and personal assignments usually result in a state of disillusionment and extreme regret that we realize, but not before it is too late…
3. “I wish I had the Courage to express my Feelings”
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.
As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried…
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level.
Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. “I Wish I had stayed in Touch with my Friends”
There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.
Ware states “Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down.”
Figure out who matter most to you in life, and make sure you have them by your side.
5. “I Wish I had let myself be Happier”
Happiness is a choice rather than a consequence of situations. It is important we make choices based on our happiness and not our fears.
Ware expressed “Fear of change had them pretending to others and to their selves that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly.”
Fear is the only thing that holds us back from experiencing happiness and appreciating life to the fullest. Do not leave room for regret in your last days. Act on your choices and be as happy as you wish to be.
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Here are the horoscopes for today for each zodiac:
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Aries (March 21 – April 19) ♈️
Today: You’ll feel energetic and confident. Take the opportunity to finish any ongoing projects. Don’t hesitate to take on challenges, as you’ll overcome them with ease. -
Taurus (April 20 – May 20) ♉️
Today: It’s a great day to focus on relationships. You may receive support from loved ones or friends. Take time to listen and share your feelings. -
Gemini (May 21 – June 20) ♊️
Today: Don’t forget to take care of your health. A few small worries may make you feel stressed. Make sure to relax and do something that helps you unwind. -
Cancer (June 21 – July 22) ♋️
Today: Your spirit is strong today. A new opportunity may come your way, whether in work or personal life. Seize it and move forward without hesitation. -
Leo (July 23 – August 22) ♌️
Today: You may find yourself in the spotlight today. Don’t be afraid to express yourself, as you’ll receive the recognition you deserve. However, remember to stay humble. -
Virgo (August 23 – September 22) ♍️
Today: It’s a perfect day to focus on completing any unfinished tasks. You’ll feel highly productive if you have a clear plan. Don’t let the small details distract you. -
Libra (September 23 – October 22) ♎️
Today: You may feel a bit tired or lacking in motivation. However, a conversation with a loved one will help you feel better and restore balance. -
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21) ♏️
Today: Your emotions may be intense today. Don’t let negative feelings overwhelm you. Try to release your stress through exercise or creative activities. -
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21) ♐️
Today: You’ll feel optimistic and eager to try new things. Keep an open mind and embrace the new opportunities coming your way. Your adventurous spirit will lead to success. -
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19) ♑️
Today: Work will be your focus today. You might face some difficulties, but don’t worry, you’ll overcome them with patience and determination. -
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18) ♒️
Today: You may feel a big change approaching. Stay open to new ideas and don’t be afraid to experiment. Life is always evolving, and you’ll adapt well. -
Pisces (February 19 – March 20) ♓️
Today: You’ll feel very sensitive and may easily pick up on others’ emotions. Take time to care for yourself and seek inner peace.
Hope these insights help you have a great day!